Navigating Divorce During the Holidays
The holiday season isn’t always full of bright lights and full hearts. In fact, there are many people who have a tough time during the holidays. For those who are navigating the tough water of divorce, the holiday season can seem harder and lonelier than ever before. Whether there are children involved in your divorce or not, the shift in family dynamics and changes to holiday celebrations will take some time to adjust to properly. If you are beginning the divorce process or you’re a divorced parent hoping to enjoy a stress-free holiday season, there is still hope! Keep reading to learn more about our family law attorneys pro-tips for navigating divorce the holidays.
5 Tips for Enjoying the Holidays During or After a Divorce
1. Think About the Future
One great way for divorced parents to make the holidays easier for everyone is to come up with a holiday plan that will balance out over the coming years. For example, whatever parent A get this year, parent B will get next year and so on. This will help both parties come to a compromise that makes everyone feel like they are getting an equal arrangement. Once you’ve settled on a future plan that everyone can agree on, it’s best to put it in writing and have it signed by a court so that everyone will stick to the plan in the future.
2. Be Patient
Patience is a virtue and during the holidays, everyone in your life should learn to exercise a bit more of it. You’ll need to be patient with yourself, with your family, with your ex-spouse and if you have them, with your children as well. Focusing on others this holiday season is another a great way to spread a bit of joy around. So remember to be patient and take some time to reflect on what the holidays are all about.
3. Involve a Mediator
The ability to have an open and honest conversation with your former spouse to discuss holiday plans, parenting plans and who gets to go to which friends-giving celebration isn’t always easy. If you are having a hard time making compromises with each other, it can be very helpful to work with a neutral party to keep your conversation on track. A mediator can also provide lost of helpful insight and solutions that you and your ex may not have thought about during this stressful time.
4. New Traditions
As you start to think about your new family situation, it’s important to recognize your past traditions and begin new ones as well. If your past family traditions are too difficult to enjoy this year, now is the time to embrace change and do something that makes you happy. When there are children involved in a divorce, this is especially important. You can get them involved in the process and see what everyone would like to try out for a new holiday tradition. And remember if things don’t go as planned, you always have next year to try again.
5. Welcome New Partners
If you have a new partner, the holidays may not be the best time to have them meet your children. But if your new partner is already well established with your loved ones, the holidays present the perfect opportunity for working towards creating a blended family unit. Take the time to find new ways to welcome your partner into family traditions and feel free to incorporate some of their favorite holiday traditions as well. Additionally, if your ex has a new partner, it’s important to be flexible and patient with them as they navigate the holidays with your children as well.
Contact Yardley Law Today
There are many things to celebrate this holiday season and you shouldn’t let a divorce keep you from making the most out of the end of one year and the beginning of a new chapter in your life. Interested in learning more about divorce and mediation? Call (321) 633-0400 or contact the team at Yardley Law today to schedule an initial consultation.